Those Who Have Game Usually…

Act 64:

“It’s never too late… To Make The First Move

Winners have plans. Losers have excuses. Take the initiative. Set the guidelines. If you wait for someone else to move… you’re playing by their rules. Be bold. The risks are higher. But so are the rewards.” – Patrick Lindsay

Quote in book: “Taking the first step, uttering a new word is what people fear most.” ~ Fyodor Dostoevsky

I’ve got no game. Seriously, if my entire future depended on me picking up someone at a bar, I’d be single for life! I got no moves. I got no lines. Nothing. Not to mention the fact I’m scared to death of making the first move. It’s gotta be (as someone recently just told me) the fact that I’ve got no confidence. I really don’t. Scared to death of rejection. I’m really sensitive and the thought of someone laughing in my face or giving that “Oh Honey, I’m out of your league” face shakes me to my core and makes me wanna cry. Coupled with that fact that I’m not a huge risk taker… the whole thing just makes me fear for my heart and recoil away from potential suitors. So, the fear of rejection and the lack of guts makes it really difficult for me to make the first move.

When I like someone, I don’t make the first move either. I don’t usually initiate physical contact. I have never kissed someone first. I usually wait until they kiss me, so I know for sure they like me. I’m really shy and demure when it comes to relationships, which is the complete opposite of how I am in the rest of my life. I suppose it’s kind of a balance, maybe not a good one...but still a balance.

When it comes to work, I’m not afraid of speaking my mind. Not afraid of taking the initiative. Not afraid making the unpopular decision. Not afraid of taking risks. Not afraid making the first move. In fact, as I’ve said before I should probably relinquish the reigns sometimes. I wish I could take a little bit of that confidence that I have at work and in other areas of my life and use that in my love life.

Listening tonight to Kat’s Vokle session she talked about how she wears baggy clothes and does things to make herself unsexy. I know I totally do this. I feel really uncomfortable when I let “the girls” out. I feel really uncomfortable when people call me sexy or give me compliments. I know I gotta get over this or I’m gonna end up alone. I mean how long will someone continue to stick around to say such nice things about you and watch you cringe every time?? At some point it’ll start to affect them and affect the relationship…

Lately, I’ve been dressing differently and trying to become more comfortable w/ my body and my self confidence. I think this is a direct result of losing some weight. I don’t look at the mirror and cringe EVERY time and more, just every other time. I’ve officially lost 20 lbs since Jan. This is actually pretty amazing since I’m always on travel and always eating badly when I’m on travel. I put on jeans last Friday that I haven’t worn in like 2 years, because of the weight I’ve lost. It’s AWESOME. Now just a couple of boob shirts and I won’t be single much longer! Haha. So, I guess that’s my attempt at making a first move. I’m making the move to make myself look more attractive so someone else will make the first move, cause god knows I’m too damn scared to do it myself. Maybe I’ll get the guts to make the first move the next time the opportunity arises, wish me luck (realistically probably not, but I'll at least think about doing it. haha).

Go out... Make The First Move. If you know how to do this, come teach me. I consulted The ORACLE and wikiHow had the funniest article about it. I went into a laughing fit when I saw the pictures. I will leave you with those images and thoughts… HAHA