Big Girls Don't...

Act 88:

“It’s never too late… To Cry

Sometimes it catches you unawares, tears welling up without warning. No matter how long ago, no matter how often, if you have safness and grief locked away it will eat away at you. Let it out. Release it.” – Patrick Lindsay

Quote in book: “We need never be ashamed of our tears.” ~ Charles Dickens

I’m a crier… even if it has nothing to do w/ me. I cry watching TV or a movie. I cry watching soaps. It’s ridiculous.

I think it’s no secret that I’ve been a big ball of cryfest lately. I think I’ve cried more in the last 7 months that I’ve ever cried. The first few months after my father’s death I think I cried every day or at least every other day. And now it just hits me… I’ve cried a couple of times while writing these blog entries. The one where I talked about the convo I had w/ my dad about my wedding right before I died is one. I also talked about the time I just started balling in the airport on father’s day. I know I’m gonna cry or tear up at some point while writing this.

I usually don’t like it when people see my cry. I’m not a “pretty” crier… like those people in soaps. I also don’t like people seeing me when I’m that vulnerable. My biggest thing is that I actually cry more when there's someone else watching me. The outpouring of sympathy gets me every time. this is the main reason I don't like to cry in front of people.

However, in the last few months I’ve actually let people see me cry. I remember finding out the day my dad was being moved into hospice care. I didn’t cry in the car… but I cried when I told my boss that I had to take time off to go home. I think having to say the words out loud made me cry. I didn’t really cry much at the funeral, because I had to be the strong one. If my mom or my brother saw me cry, it would get to them. I remember that my brother did such a good job w/ his speech at the service (I knew I couldn’t make it through). I teared a little bit, but not full on sobbing or crying.

So, here’s what I’ve learned over the last 7 months, just let it the F&*^ out. It doesn’t’ matter if people are watching or if you’re embarrassed or if other people trigger you… if you need to let it out.. just do it. There’s no shame in it and I bet it'll make you feel better. Here’s the caveat…Let it out, but don’t make a freakin’ scene. Don’t cry just to get attention from loved ones. If you need attention just say.. “hey, I need some lovin’ today.” Or “I need a hug” (if they ask why?... just say.. I just do… hook me up). I bet 80% of the time they won’t even ask!

TRIVIA

10 Points: Name the Artist that released “Big Girls Don’t Cry” in 1962 and Name the

10 Points: Name the Musical that was based on that Artist

10 Points: Name the Artist that released “Big Girls Don’t Cry” in 2006

10 Points: Name The actress who won an academy award for her portrayal of Brandon Teena in Boys Don’t Cry

10 Points: Name The Musical what made famous “Don’t Cry For Me Argentina” and name the Artist who played Eva Peron in the movie

10 Points: Name the 3 of 5 Beatles Songs that have “Cry” in the title

10 Points: Name the Artist that released “Cryin” with the lyrics below

There was a time
When I was so broken hearted
Love wasn't much of a friend of mine
The tables have turned, yeah
Cause me and them ways have parted
That kind of love was the killin' kind
Now listen
All I want is someone I can't resist
I know all I need to know by the way that I got kissed

I was cryin' when I met you
Now I'm tryin' to forget you
Love is sweet misery
I was cryin' just to get you
Now I'm dyin' Ôcause I let you
Do what you do - down on me

10 Points: Name the Artist that released “Let Her Cry” with the lyrics below

She sits alone by a lampost
Trying to find a thought that's escaped her mind
She says Dad's the one I love the most
But Stipe's not far behind

She never lets me in
Only tells me where she's been
When she's had too much to drink
I say that I don't care, I just run my hands
Through her dark hair then I pray to God
You gotta help me fly away

And just...
Let her cry..if the tears fall down like rain
Let her sing...if it eases all her pain
Let her go...let her walk right out on me
And if the sun comes up tomorrow
Let her be...let her be.

10 Points: Name the Artist who sings “Grown Men Don’t Cry” with the lyrics below

I pulled into the shopping center
And saw a little boy wrapped around the legs of his mother
Like ice cream melting they embraced
Years of bad decisions runnin' down her face
All mornin' I'd been thinkin' my life's so hard
And they wore everything they own, livin' in a car
I wanted to tell him it would be ok
But I just got in my suburban and I drove away

But I don't know why they say grown men don't cry
I don't know why they say grown men don't cry

10 Points: Name the Artist and Song of the lyrics below

You were my sun, you were my earth
but you didnt know all the ways I loved you, no
So you took a chance, made other plans
But I betcha didnt think that they would come crashin down, no

You dont have to say, What cha did
I already know, I found out from HIM
now theres just no chance
with you and me
there will never be
dont it make you sad about it

you told me you love me
Why did you leave me all alone
now you tell me you need me
When you call me on the phone

Girl I refuse
you must have me confused with some other guy
the bridges were burned
now its your turn,To cry